As I read a blog, written beautifully, about what they have foreseen their future as and what they yearn for. I began to ponder mine. I want a husband, but not just any husband a perfect one. I know I know there is no such thing. But when I say perfect I mean perfect for me. So I begin with the list and requirement I want out of my future spouse.
There is the spiritual aspect-
I want a godly man, that truly knows what a relationship with Christ is. A man that will be the spiritual leader of our family. A man that is guided by God's wisdom and says yes to whatever He may ask of him. --- Can I say I even do that? I am not sure but I can tell you that I am trying and that is what i ask of him.
The financial aspect-
Has a steady job/income, drives a decent car, preferably no debt.
The physical aspect-
no tattoos, no piercings, no smoking.
other requirements-
That he 100% loves me and accepts me for me and that he loves my son. That he doesn't criticize how I raise my son. He should help and guide me in a way that is beneficial to everyone involved.
There are way more things on my list this is just a brief list.
So I began thinking about this and all the requirements I have and begin to wonder is this right? Should I even think this way. Now don't get me wrong there are some things that I won't falter on there will always be requirements. But if I am saying I want to marry a cowboy, who drives a truck and lives in the country but God is saying here is this man that lives in the city works downtown and likes to eat fish for every meal. Will my heart be ok with that? So maybe I will have my list and if he doesn't meet every requirement then I will trust in the Lord, not my own understanding and accept His perfect will for me.
But I do know my God has someone in store for me. I will trust in him, I will strive to be the kind of wife that glorifies my God, that makes my husband proud, someone he can boast in and not be shameful of.
"Charm is deceptive beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Prov. 31:30
One of my favorite songs the week of camp said it best.
"When all is said and done may it be enough to rest in you and the mercy of your wind"
I spent some time as a single mom, and had a list of requirements for the men I dated. I was 22, and would only date people over 30, out of college, with respectable jobs, who were Catholic. When I met Adam, he was 25 and still in school, though he was VERY Catholic and had a great job. I'm so glad he talked me into ignoring a couple of things on my list, because really... he is practically perfect in every way. :) He loves Sophie like his own. He is a fabulous father and makes me so happy.
ReplyDeleteJust saying... don't be afraid to make your list, but be flexible on things that may not matter as much as you think they do. ;)
Lots of love,
Lerin
Good post. Thanks for sharing. I am so glad to have found your blog. (-:
ReplyDelete~Kathryn